Author: Albert Silver
Date: 13:24:35 04/11/01
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On April 11, 2001 at 15:47:40, Paul Doire wrote:
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>>Now, does this mean that people should never disagree with you? Does this mean
>>that you should become offended because someone has a contrary opinion?
>>
>>Posting to USENET (anywhere on USENET) means that you should grow a 2 inch thick
>>skin.
>>
>>IMO-YMMV
>
>
>Thank you for all your corrections, fixing my quotes,and your mighty words of
>wisdom.
>
>IMHO
It CAN get ugly. Some people ARE antagonizing (I'm certainly no saint), but not
every post that disagrees is an attack. That was most of the point Dann was
trying to convey. If I say I think you're wrong, you mustn't assume that is the
equivalent of my calling you dumb or even so much as thinking it. In fact, in a
forum, you pretty much have four different responses to any particular post:
a) Agree
b) Disagree
c) Expand (say more on it or add any feedback without actually giving an
opinion)
d) Ignore (this one is invisible of course)
As in any discussion this is how things go. In cases A and B, they merely
represent points of views on the content of a post and aren't statements on the
poster. It is a gross mistake to assume that a disagreement is an attack on the
poster. If the poster automatically assumes that, then yes, I think they are
being a tad oversensitive. As a public forum, you will pretty much see it all.
The good and the bad. I am not at all convinced that there is more bad than
good. Quite the contrary in fact. Discussion and posts are quite diverse, as are
the opions and responses. That is the way it should be. Why concentrate on a few
contrary opinions? Look at it this way: if you let someone's negative opinion
gain greater control over your thoughts, then you are basically yielding that
poster a degree of control over you. They are now an influence. Responding is
fine, but leave anything related to the forum IN the forum. In theatre, one of
the things that actors are taught is to "leave your day behind you" when
entering the stage. To a degree, you could also say something similar here,
leave the forum behind you when you leave it. And enjoy all of its glorious
diversity while here. Personally, I think its quite colorful.
Albert
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