Author: Thorsten Czub
Date: 06:11:19 04/05/98
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>The point here is not free speech. There are things that you can get in >trouble for saying here. If you go after someone personally, you should >get in trouble. If you wander off on some long off-topic nonsense you >should get in trouble. > >If you want do any of this in r.g.c.c., that is unpleasant but allowed, >since that is how r.g.c.c. is defined. > >I thought CCC was supposed to work differently. > >I thought the whole point of CCC was to exclude certain topics (off >topic stuff) and certain modes of argument (insults, accusations, >ranting, etc.). > >I don't care if your impression of whoever it was you were talking about >is true or false. This place is a forum for discussion, not a place to >put people on trial or to nurse permanent grudges. > >That's my opinion. > >bruce Ok - whenever I discuss with you (or also other guys from US) I have found out that we have different WAYS and VALUES how to discuss. IMO this is a cultural problem. You cannot stand heated discussions ! Whenever this happens you feel personal offended or you shoot with heavy weapons back although the other side has NOT thought to attack you or not thought to kill you. All the other side did was: told an opinion. My experience with guys from other (european-)countries is different. We can discuss very heated and very (in your point of view) uncivilized without beeing enemies or hate each other AFTERWARDS. I don't know WHY this is. I can only register that IT IS ! I have no idea WHY it isn't possible to discuss abstract or even concrete matters with americans WITHOUT this problem. Maybe there are cultural problems or differences that produce these complications. We seem to have different ranges concerning personal attack-values. In europe children and adults learn to attack or to discuss other people with WORDS and NOT with weapons or hitting each other. You can come with complete idiotic opinions, found strange parties (e.g. the beer-drinker party, the car-driver-party, the unemployed-party, ...) and seriously discuss all kinds of stuff without attacking in personal. e.g. my own values are that I differenciate between a person and the things a person has done. I would e.g. don't like the things a person has done, but would not atack the person itself. This lead into the action that I will easily sit next to frederic and will not HATE him while sitting next to him, but I will raise my voice if he SAYS someting I think this would be a lie. There is a border. I would not call him asshole or stupid or whatever bad name when he sits next to me, because i don't want to hurt him. But when he says A and I am the opinion NOt A than I do say: You are wrong Fred, this is a lie. In my opinion YOU would now call this a very personal attack, but in fact it is only that I am having a different opinion and expressing it WITHOUT hating the person. Very often I have felt that you cannot differenciate this when I express my opinons. Anything I say is taken as an attack by you, as if I would really hate or disklike you or as if I would attack you and your folk or americans or whatever. The sense or expressing prejudices or discussing things with different point of views IS NOT to attack the other side, but to clearify own point of views. I see no reason why I should not be in one room without my enemies and beeing very normal to them. E.g. when I was in Paris sitting next to Peter Schreiner, Frederic came in and said hello to all. I did not shoot at him and did not throw a knife into his face. I did not said you asshole or whatever. I was surprise myself that he was so nice but shake hands with him and we talked like 2 humans without killing each other. I call this culture. You can call it whatever. If my statements here have overstepped the border of CCC from your point of view this could be a reason of us having different values concerning attacking range. IMO than we having a cultural problem between americans and europeans. I don't know why you take anything personal. Or seeing hatred or campaigns behind it. If you know people for years, you cannot hate them because you are used to know them. You can be different opinion, but you cannot hate somebody you know for over 10 years in person. I like Dirk, Moritz and Matthias W. I like you too. This does not stop me from having different opinions like you have.
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