Author: walter irvin
Date: 07:43:55 09/17/99
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On September 17, 1999 at 03:26:25, odell hall wrote: >On September 17, 1999 at 02:45:49, Dann Corbit wrote: > >>On September 17, 1999 at 02:06:35, odell hall wrote: >>[snip] >>> Ok Bob I concede, that it may have been of poor taste, (defpending on the >>>audience) but for me it was said completely without a second thought, as it is a >>>very common folk saying where I am from, I had no idea anyone would find this >>>remark offensive, I mean it is like I am afraid to breathe around here, this >>>newsgroup has become extremely sensitive, hell maybe I would be better off at >>>rgcc. I will make this my last post I think I will feel a little more >>>comfortable somewhere where my every word no matter how well intentioned will >>>not be put under a microscope and judged. Excuse me for living ! >> >>No need to go overboard. When I was in Turkey someone told me a saying that I >>found offensive: "Women are like old rugs, the more you beat them the stronger >>they get." >>I think just about anyone would find it offensive (probably including many >>Turkish people). The person who repeated that phrase to me had no idea that it >>was repellant. >>When we receive a remark that seems offensive to us, we can: >>0. Ignore it. Sometimes that is the best thing to do. >>1. Explain that it is offensive and why. Sometimes that is the best thing to >>do. >>2. Take strong action to deter the use of such terminology. Sometimes that is >>the right thing to do. >> >>In this case, I think we had #1. It is not like you were suggesting the "Final >>Solution" but rather (I assume) it is intended to be humorous [of course nobody >>would beat someone just because they were a stepchild...] >>The world is full of cultural gaps. We can educate each other and learn what >>hurts the feelings of others. If we value their company we will try not to >>offend. We can also put forth effort not to be offended at the drop of a hat. >> >>No need to leave. We are all adults here. Let's forgive and forget, maybe. > > > >Yes your exactly right, infact I forget that this is a international forum, I >assumed everyone would be familiar with this innocent saying, I never considered >the fact that someone would be offended by the adage. I had a stepfather myself, >and when I first heard the statement it made me laugh, infact you are correct , >I was responding to the gentlemen's post with a touch of humour. I never >suspected that this newsgroup would be so rigid as to find fault. maybe there is something wrong with me , but until some one insults me personaly it dont mean a whole lot .and if they do insult me personally then : 1. i consider the source : if a valid sorce 2.then i consider if im at fault ,could happen . i sometimes SPEAK in woarse selection of words and phases much woarse ,but i know exactly who i'm talking to ,and i know exactly how they will take it , as a joke .by the way the saying around my neck of the woods is "like a red headed step child "but i dont use it myself .
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