Author: Dann Corbit
Date: 13:33:00 04/11/01
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On April 11, 2001 at 16:29:37, Paul Doire wrote: >On April 11, 2001 at 15:53:20, Dann Corbit wrote: [snip] >>Being friendly is part of being civilized. And yet civilized people are also >>unfriendly at times. The thing to be aimed for is to be as polite as we can >>without walking on eggshells or losing our personality. >> >>I suppose what we are heading for is a day when it is impossible to say anything >>which might be perceived as negative. Well, I'm not ever going to go there, >>[though I do temper my speach (believe it or not).] >> >>I think that we should all consider the feelings of others. But the other half >>of the equation is not to become needlessly offended. Often, when we get mad >>about criticism what it means is that we are actually very unsure of our >>position and do not know how to respond to the criticism in a sensible way. >>Well, that's usually what it means when I fly off the handle. > >Well that's what it means for you and you alone, you shouldn't assume that your >feelings are the same as everyone elses. > >I am sure there is a huge ....now absent would be membership that would agree >with me if they were not scared away. What are they running from? Why are they frightened? When someone responds to rage or harsh criticism with a mild and reasoned response, they earn my respect. If someone is actually abusive, we have an email form which can be used to address the situation. If someone has a tone you do not care for, why not just dismiss it? Is our own ego really so large that it cannot absorb criticisms? If the criticisms are unjustified, they end up making the attacker look stupid anyway.
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